To Look, Not to be Seen
Many people say to me, “I get very nervous in public. What should I do?”
The results will be different whether you view your nervousness as plus, or whether you view it as minus.
The question above is asking about nervousness with a minus mind
Being nervous while maintaining a plus mind develops your concentration, and you can perform to the best of your ability. However, being nervous with a minus mind prohibits you from completing your work.
If you are not one of those people who are used to standing in front of many people, or one of those people who just love to stand in public, then if you want to act with a calm mind in public, you need to practice Ki.
I am comfortable giving lectures in front of a few hundred people now, but when I was small, I used to get very nervous in public.
At my graduation ceremony in elementary school, I received the diploma from the principal. On the way to get the diploma, my right hand and right foot moved same time!
My mother says, “I was so embarrassed at that time.” :-)
First of all, I will talk about the basics of Ki.
If you send Ki to others or to the surrounding environment, this condition is called “Ki is extending”.
On the other hand, if you pay attention only to yourself, this condition is called “Pulling Ki (toward you)”.
When you appear in public, if you think to yourself “They are looking at me”, you receive Ki from all people. For example, if there are 10 people, you receive 10 people’s Ki., If there are 100 people, you receive 100 people’s ki.
Try this with your partner.
If you think, “You are looking at me”, you are disturbed by your partner’s line of vision.
If you think, “I am looking at you”, you do not mind your partner’s line of vision.
If you pull Ki, you come under the influence of others Ki. Your Ki goes to only yourself, therefore, you cannot realize anything.
In this time, let’s say to yourself, “I am looking at others”.
The point is to send Ki in a positive way from yourself to others.
Then, you do not come under the influence of others’ Ki, no matter how many people are in front of you.
By extending Ki to the outside, you do not come under the influence of others’ Ki.
When you are extending Ki, you also can realize others condition.
For instance, if you extend Ki when you give a lecture, you can adjust your topic by seeing how the audience reacts.
Since I know this and send Ki to others in a positive way, I can talk to others without excitement.
“To be seen (pull Ki)” and “To look(extend Ki)” are completely different.
In addition to the above, if state of your mind is “I show you”, this is different.
If you try to show others intentionally, your action will be unnatural in most of the cases. Then, this creates nervousness again.
If you try to show something, you cannot move anothers heart.
Actors particularly understand this difference.
I feel that this theme is very deep.
Let's practice together.