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December 22, 2005

Enjoy Your Life

I heard two young ladies having a conversation on the train the other day.

Lady A: “There has been nothing fun lately.”

Lady B: “No, nothing fun.”

When I heard this conversation, suddenly I wondered.

It is good when you can feel happiness about something. However, if the happiness is a result of someone or something outside of you, then the happiness may disappear very soon after you get used to the “fun”.

You can get true fun, or happiness, only by enjoying things from within yourself.

For example, when you have a meal, you can rush to eat the meal just to take in nourishment. Or you can taste and enjoy each aspect of the meal.

Even if there is a wonderful dinner, if you do not appreciate each flavor, the dinner will not seem delicious to you.

In the same way, you can perceive your work as just routine work. Or you can enjoy your work by setting up a goal and clearly using your mind to achieve that goal.

Even if it is wonderful job, if you are not using your mind in this way, it will not be fun and challenging.

This simple approach makes you enjoy everything positively. By changing your way of perceiving things, your life can become fruitful.

This is the best use of your mind.

It is a good thing to find enjoyment in others, however, if we get used to having fun only through others, our ability to enjoy things positively degenerates. We will be dependent upon others, and won’t be able to enjoy life alone.

It is important to consider “what you can enjoy”, not “what you do”. I think if you can enjoy everything, this has great value.

It is also very important to enjoy yourself when you study something.

I teach over 1,000 people a year.

There are some people who are always growing. On the other hand, there are other people who stop growing at some level. This is true, even if I teach them the same contents at the same time.

I think the difference comes from whether a person can enjoy the teaching positively. People who are growing always know how to enjoy everything.

A clever person grows fast in the beginning. However, if the person does not know how to enjoy positively, they will soon become bored and lose interest.

Even if you are a slow learner, if you know how to enjoy things positively, you can realize many things and never stop growing.

“To enjoy” is one of the most important factors of studying.

This is just an aside:
My wife and I were waiting at the train platform. We had to wait over 20 minutes for next train.
As a result, I was slightly irritated, and said, “Why there is not an earlier train?”
My wife heard it and she said to me, “Why can’t you enjoy waiting for the train together?”

It seems that I have to train how to “enjoy positively”:)
When I look back, I realize that I lost my breadth of mind because of an overbooked schedule.

This was very important realization for me.

This is the time that we set our personal goals for next year.

One of my goals is to “enjoy everything”!

Let’s practice together.

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December 08, 2005

To Look, Not to be Seen

Many people say to me, “I get very nervous in public. What should I do?”

The results will be different whether you view your nervousness as plus, or whether you view it as minus.
The question above is asking about nervousness with a minus mind

Being nervous while maintaining a plus mind develops your concentration, and you can perform to the best of your ability. However, being nervous with a minus mind prohibits you from completing your work.

If you are not one of those people who are used to standing in front of many people, or one of those people who just love to stand in public, then if you want to act with a calm mind in public, you need to practice Ki.

I am comfortable giving lectures in front of a few hundred people now, but when I was small, I used to get very nervous in public.

At my graduation ceremony in elementary school, I received the diploma from the principal. On the way to get the diploma, my right hand and right foot moved same time!

My mother says, “I was so embarrassed at that time.” :-)

First of all, I will talk about the basics of Ki.

If you send Ki to others or to the surrounding environment, this condition is called “Ki is extending”.

On the other hand, if you pay attention only to yourself, this condition is called “Pulling Ki (toward you)”.

When you appear in public, if you think to yourself “They are looking at me”, you receive Ki from all people. For example, if there are 10 people, you receive 10 people’s Ki., If there are 100 people, you receive 100 people’s ki.

Try this with your partner.

If you think, “You are looking at me”, you are disturbed by your partner’s line of vision.
If you think, “I am looking at you”, you do not mind your partner’s line of vision.

If you pull Ki, you come under the influence of others Ki. Your Ki goes to only yourself, therefore, you cannot realize anything.

In this time, let’s say to yourself, “I am looking at others”.
The point is to send Ki in a positive way from yourself to others.

Then, you do not come under the influence of others’ Ki, no matter how many people are in front of you.

By extending Ki to the outside, you do not come under the influence of others’ Ki.
When you are extending Ki, you also can realize others condition.

For instance, if you extend Ki when you give a lecture, you can adjust your topic by seeing how the audience reacts.

Since I know this and send Ki to others in a positive way, I can talk to others without excitement.

“To be seen (pull Ki)” and “To look(extend Ki)” are completely different.

In addition to the above, if state of your mind is “I show you”, this is different.

If you try to show others intentionally, your action will be unnatural in most of the cases. Then, this creates nervousness again.

If you try to show something, you cannot move anothers heart.
Actors particularly understand this difference.

I feel that this theme is very deep.

Let's practice together.

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