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September 22, 2005

The Exchange of Ki

Many people ask, “What is the condition of extending Ki?”

Koichi Tohei sensei said “Ki extension is the condition of exchanging Ki with the Universe. “

Welive by exchanging Ki with the Universe.

For example, breathing.

We breathe air into our lungs, and our blood system carries oxygen throughout the body. In our cells, the oxygen is exchanged for carbon dioxide, which is then brought to the lungs to be exhaled.

This is also an exchange of Ki with the Universe.

Once this exchange stops, there will be big trouble.

We cannot live only by ourselves. We can say, “We are living.” However, the truth is “The Universe allows us to live”.

If we think this way, we can say everything is an exchange of Ki of the Universe, such as eating, communication, economy etc.

Exchange of the Ki with mind is also the same thing.

For example, when we have selfish mind or when we are thinking only of ourselves, we hold Ki only within ourselves and we do not extend Ki to the outside.

This condition is called, “Ki is not extending” or “Pulling Ki.”

When we extend Ki positively, Ki is extending.

Here is an example of this in daily life:

When we say something negative and have a minus facial expression, we are trying to pull others Ki to ourselves.

For example, let’s take a person who says, “I am tired.” many times.

It may seem that this person’s purpose is merely to report, “I am tired.” However, actually the person wants others to extend Ki to him and say, “Are you all right?”

That is, the person is trying to pull others’ Ki to him in a unilateral way.

If you pull Ki in a unilateral way, there can be no exchange of Ki. To exchange Ki, it is necessary to exchange Ki with each other.

It is important to extend Ki to others positively.

When we hold Ki only inside of ourselves and do not extend Ki to the outside, this prevents us from exchanging Ki with the Universe, and places our mind and body in a poor state of health.

When we extend Ki to the outside, new Ki will come inside us.

If we extend Ki, new Ki comes to us. This is the principle of the Universe.

When we are unwell, if we think about only ourselves, we will get worse.

If we do our best for someone, no matter how we feel, our health condition usually improves.
This is an example of when you extend Ki, new Ki will come to you.

“Ki training” is the process of changing from the condition which we hold Ki within ourselves, to the condition which we extend Ki to the outside.

That is the condition of extending Ki always.

Let's practice together.

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September 08, 2005

Ideal Expectations

Let’s characterize the appropriate attitude towards others.

For example, a husband and wife; a husband has and ideal image of his wife. And a wife has an ideal image of her husband.

Similarly, in a company’ the executive officer has an expectation of his workers, and the workers have expectation of him.

This is the same as between parents and children, teachers and students, friends and team mates.

However, we do not share this ideal each other in many cases. We just keep it in our mind. Especially, in Japan, it is virtue to understand each other without words. This virtue is important, but sometimes it becomes a cause of bad human relationships.

This is an example.

A husband considers the role that he should play in home. If his ideal and his wife's expectation are different, the more the husband tries, the more the wife will be discontent with her husband's attitude.

As a result, the husband begins to think that even if he does his best, his wife will not appreciate his efforts and he developes a grievance against his wife. This means both the husband and the wife do not understand each other even if each of them do their best. And there will a be bad relationship between husband and wife.

The only solution is for the husband to share his ideal with his wife and for the wife to similarly share with her husband. Some people think the husband’s role is to work hard at his office, some people think it is to spend time with his family as much as he can. The balance of those is up to each couple.

I often receive marriage counseling questions from my friends. Since I am still young, I do not have much experiences. However, I always tell them to share their ideals with each other. If their ideals are different, they should not fool themselves into believing they are automatically compatible, just because they have romantic feelings.

Many people tend to think that if they get married, their differences will be solved naturally. However, this is difficult if their fundamental thinking is different. On the other hand, if the couple’s thinking is fundamentally the same, other minor problems can be easily overcome.

This is the same as in team work.

A team leader has his ideal expectation of the team members. The team members have their ideal expectation of their leader. Let’s assume that the team leader thinks his role is to show his ability to take action. And the team members think that leader should communicate well with the members. In this case, the more the leader makes an effort, the less the team members appreciate their leader.

The key to success is to share each other's ideal.

Mind moves body. In another words, the state of mind decides the quality of the action. Therefore, it is difficult to change only action. It is important to share your concepts of value with each other, first.

Do you share your ideals with others around you?

Let's practice it together.

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September 01, 2005

To know yourself

We cannot see ourselves directly with our own eyes.

We need to be very aware of our own weak points, because we tend to see others’ weak points easier than own.

There are two ways that we can know ourselves: to ask others to tell us, or to look in the mirror.

Koichi Tohei sensei has told me that the most important thing is to be humble.

Some people misunderstood that to be humble means to be obedient to someone. However, this is not the true meaning of humility.

There are many books which tell us to be humble. However, the definition of humility is wrong in the most of those cases

Meaning of humility is not “show a humble attitude toward people” but “accept the Universe humbly”.

For example, let’s say that someone makes a big mistake.

Some people do not accept the reality of things and think “I am unfortunate!” “Why me…?”. Then they try to find an excuse outside of themselves.

In this way, the person ignores the cause of the mistake, and the same mistake will happen again in the same situation.

If the person is humble, he or she thinks “Something is wrong in my thinking or behavior”. Then, they will accept the mistake and try to find the cause inside of themselves.

As a result, we grow by not repeating the same mistakes.

To be humble is necessary to our growth.

To be humble is important in our communication also.

A humble person may get unpleasant but wholesome advice from others. Others let him know his own nature, which he may not be able to see for himself.

If we do not have a friend who can give unpleasant but wholesome advice, this is very serious situation. Because we cannot get any feedback, and therefore we cannot realize our own mistake or weak point.

If you have someone who gives unpleasant but wholesome advice, this person is a treasure.

If you think how many people who give unpleasant but wholesome advice you have, this will be a good measure of your level of humility.

How about you?

A practical way to know yourself is to do Ki breathing.

When your breath becomes calm, your mind also becomes calm.

If your mind becomes calm, you can see things as they are. Your bias, delusion and excuses will dissolve away.

If you get angry with someone, you can find your mistake during Ki breathing.

Ki breathing lets you know the shape of your mind. This is like you are reflected in the mirror.

The essence of learning Ki is to know yourself well.

When you know yourself correctly, you will gain confidence and correct your mistake or weak points.

Let’s try to know ourselves together.

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